The painful heartbreak is here – and it hurts 😦
Min Soo & Eun Young’s relationship is put to a stop by Min Soo after he finds out Eun Young is Eun Jin’s sister. Everything is twisted, and there is just so much angst going around in these two episodes.
I again appreciate the writer for not dragging things, and slowly developing the characters and make each episode so worth watching. Some dramas have very quick pace, with a lot of things happening and developing, that sometimes, we fail to understand the character more or go along with the character’s feelings. This drama focuses more on characters and reasoning behind their actions.
I find this drama very well-made, because honestly, there isn’t much plot towards it if you think about it. It’s simple and straight-forward – two married couples, an affair, and an entangled innocent couple. However, what makes this drama so compelling is that it focuses a lot on the characters and with each new episode, makes us understand the characters more, the choices they made, and etc. It feels sort of realistic – and gives us various perspective while watching the drama because it touches on topics which are very real in society.
Anyway, I was pissed with Eun Jin’s mom in these episodes – but I’ll talk more about that in a while.
THOUGHTS & DISCUSSION
Min Soo realises that Eun Jin is Eun Young’s sister and was shocked. He breaks up with her, with an excuse that his feelings have changed and that he doesn’t love her. Eun Young is taken aback, and asks for a reasonable reason and if this is some sort of fate which he keep talking about. Min Soo denies and insist that this break up is his choice and doesn’t have to do with anything else.
Let’s talk about Min Soo’s decision.
We all know he loves Eun Young – and his decision to break off with her was because he was the one behind Eun Jin’s accident. It might not seem like such a big deal, but then again, that’s because no one was hurt. That accident could have turned for the worse, and he could have almost hurt someone dear to Eun Young. Just because no one was hurt doesn’t make it okay for him to get away with it. No matter what – hit & run is a hit & run.
For someone as responsible & honest as Min Soo, it’s understandable that he cannot see himself dating the younger sister of the person he almost caused great harm to. Maybe not now – because that’s still a fact that he hides and hasn’t own up to. Maybe he’s afraid of what Eun Young would think of him after finding out he was the one behind the hit & run?
Honestly, I’m pleasantly surprised that Mi Kyung doesn’t objects the relationship and even though upset, she is more sad about the fact that Min Soo gave up Eun Young, because she knew that he loves her a lot and wanted a family so bad. I love the sibling love these two have~
I feel bad for the innocent Eun Young though who probably feels like crap with all of these happening. It’s a huge shock for her – and I find it acceptable at how angry she was. I was actually pissed at her Mom for siding with Eun Jin even at that moment, because clearly, she didn’t think of Eun Young’s feeling.
I know Eun Young is straight-forward and is harsh with the way she speaks – but it doesn’t make sense for the Mom to ask Eun Young to calm down and reason with her that Min Soo probably didn’t love her enough. It’s just so wrong.
Eun Young said harsh words towards Eun Jin, but I find that acceptable because it was in a moment of anger, and she has every right to be angry. It was not a good or justifiable thing, but I can understand her frustrations. And what makes it worse was that Mom keep saying that Eun Jin is having a difficult time too and Dad came in scolding Eun Young.
I find Eun Young’s argument valid that her pain isn’t less important or less painful compared to Eun Jin. Just because she is not married to Min Soo, doesn’t mean that when they break up is less of a painful experience compared to what Eun Jin is going through. In Eun Young’s perspective, it was a difficult decision to actually love someone without any conditions, and she was proud of herself of being able to do so – however, that very relationship which she treasures a lot is breaking.
I think that the mentality of ‘that person is suffering/hurting more’ is just so wrong. There is no such thing – hurt is just hurt. Feeling pain is just feeling pain. You can’t compare one person’s pain to another. Something small to you, may be something big to another. What affects you may not affect another. We all define things in our own way.
Honestly, if I was in Eun Young’s position, I would have done the same thing she did. Why do I have to suffer because of someone’s else mistake? Why do I have to understand and forgive her just because we’re family?
As for Eun Jin, she gets more than what she bargained for. She took all the insults strangers and her friends gave her, but this time, she feels guilty because in her perspective, she destroyed Eun Young’s happiness. And she probably felt extremely hurt when Eun Young scolded her for living her life wrong – it hurts much worse when a family member insults you.
But then again, that’s what family does. We unintentionally hurt each other with words and actions when we are angry, even though we care for them. It’s just in us. Human nature.
Now putting all of those aside, the only character I still haven’t figure out is Jae Hak. I don’t know if he ever loved Mi Kyung. I thought he never did – but we’ve been seeing a couple of sweet flashbacks between them, and maybe there was affection after all.
What I’m thinking is this – He loved her, but never realized it. They didn’t date for long, and got married quickly. She started being the perfect housewife, and maybe along the way he got tired and everything became sort of a routine for them. The romance had died down. Maybe when he met Eun Jin, he might have felt that attraction and his heart fluttering, it felt new to him and he enjoyed it. He might have mistaken that for love – something which was missing from his marriage, or it might have really been love. This point is the most confusing.
Anyway, with the recent episodes and Mi Kyung being a total sweetheart because she is no longer clinging on Jae Hak and is slowly moving on, it feels like Jae Hak is starting to slowly fall apart. I don’t know if he misses Mi Kyung because she was always there for his convenience, or he had actually really loved her but never realized it until she’s gone.